After a big loss, I learned a word: allow
That year, my account was down to only 20% of the principal.
I sat alone in the trading room, staring at the screen for half an hour without moving. I wasn't looking at the market; I was... looking at my own obsession.
At that time, I was constantly "butting heads" with the market.
If I misjudged, I was defiant;
If I stopped out, I was resentful;
If I missed a good opportunity, I was anxious.
I always felt: clearly I was looking in the right direction, so why was I still unable to make money?
Until later, I heard a word: "allow."
Allow mistakes, allow losses, allow the market to not behave as I expected.
From that day on, I no longer forced myself to make a profit on every trade.
I began to accept: it is a game of probability, it is the art of trial and error, not an arena for pride.
I established a clearly defined little system, where even if I was wrong, I would lose at most 5%.
I allowed the market to wash me out twice, allowed myself to miss good opportunities, allowed emotional fluctuations, but I did not allow myself to gamble outside the framework.
In the end, trading is actually about reaching a reconciliation with oneself.
When you allow all reasonable "unexpected events," you are truly free.