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You're poor, why did you give birth to me? This topic has been quite popular lately. Should poor people have children? I think we need to first talk about the facts. Our concept of poverty in the 70s and 80s was that we sometimes had meals but often didn't. Back then, managing to come up with 10,000 yuan was a big deal. Now, many people's notions of poverty have been washed away or transformed. Nowadays, poverty means you don’t buy me the latest iPhone; you're poor, you’re guilty. If you don’t buy me a high-end computer, you’re poor, you’re guilty. If you don’t buy me a house in a good school district, you’re poor, you’re guilty. You’ll find that this is really discussing whether the poor should have children? Are we trapped in a concept packaged by consumerism? At first glance, it seems like saying 'I’m poor, I won't have kids' is a form of kindness, but what it's really doing is stimulating your consumption. If you love your child, you should buy the latest iPhone, buy a high-end computer. If you love your child, you should invest everything in them. What they need is for this form to amplify your desires. However, in our traditional view, being vain and consuming beyond one's means is immoral. But they want to rationalize this immoral behavior. Notice that now, ordinary people's way of life is being labeled as guilty. We must acknowledge that any social animal, human gathering, is governed by the 80/20 principle: there will always be 20% at the top and 80% who are ordinary. Aren't we all ordinary people? Ordinary people lead ordinary lives. Yet, now there are those who want to label ordinary lives as guilty. If you earn 5,000 yuan a month, you are guilty. Not only are you guilty, but you dare to have children? When your child grows up, they will blame you. If your child wants to blame you, they will find a way to do it. If you give them money, they will say they don’t want money; they want companionship. If you accompany them, they will say they don’t want companionship; they want money. You give them money and companionship, and then they say they are controlled by their parents and have no opinions of their own. So, notice that this rationalizes children asking their parents for money, rationalizes spending, rationalizes high consumption, rationalizes living beyond one’s means. In the end, ordinary families become fragmented, children feel bad, and finally, parents realize they don't even know where their money went. Therefore, we ordinary people must recognize the universal concepts in ordinary families. If a child is a genius, treat them with a genius's perspective. But we are ordinary people. If learning isn’t good, I’ll find a good teacher. Even though I’m ordinary, I want the best resources. My ancestors were ordinary for three generations, but you are my parents and you shouldn't be. Besides allowing capital to profit wildly, what we have left is only pain. If we are now discussing whether the poor should have children, will the next step be discussing whether the poor should eat, or whether they should live? Everyone has limited abilities, and we can't say some people are guilty. Now labeling those with lower abilities as guilty, isn't this a destruction of humanity? Is there anyone who takes this to heart? If so, what capital wants to extinguish is this.