Teacher Kou, my boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for over a year, and our feelings are very good. We are preparing to get married this year. We were planning to let our parents meet, but my boyfriend suddenly told me that he lost 300,000 yuan trading virtual currency over the past six months, and he has lost all the money we saved for our wedding. We usually have a good relationship, and he treats me well, but during our time together, I didn’t notice anything unusual; he acted pretty much the same as usual. Both of our jobs are relatively stable, and our income is decent. I just want to know what kind of mentality guys who play with virtual currency have. Can such a person still get married?

We have already broken up. In fact, I considered giving him another chance; everyone makes mistakes in life, and we should face problems together. But he was the one who backed down first. We are both 30 now, and he feels that since he has no money, we can't discuss marriage, and he lacks the confidence to talk about it, nor can his family provide any support. I believe marriage should be a happy result, and I don’t want to treat it as a task. Moreover, this situation has left me with a deep sense of insecurity. Money is really a small matter; it can be earned back in a year or two.

It has been a month since we broke up. A few days ago, I arranged to have one last meal together to cool down and part on good terms. During that time, I secretly looked at his phone, and I found that after our breakup, he has been continuously trading non-stop, and he has basically lost all the remaining money, leaving just over 10,000 yuan in his account. I saw that the trading on that platform showed a loss of over 440,000 yuan. He hasn’t told his family either. It truly breaks my heart, and I feel compassion for him. What should I do? Should I pretend not to know and continue with my life, or is there a way to wake him up? After all, we were together for more than a year, and even though we’ve broken up, I still can’t bear to see him become burdened with debt and living a miserable life.