Fan submission: I met an investment banker on a certain platform. Born in 1984, 187 cm tall. I don’t remember what the photos looked like. I was moving house those two weeks and occasionally logged on. Then I saw his request, and I accepted it, to be honest, I didn't take it seriously. Generally, on matchmaking platforms, there are 10 accounts in, and none out. Everyone struggles to chat, and after a few awkward exchanges, I felt like I was seriously looking for a partner this week, which met my mate selection criteria. Actually, I only consider those born in 1989 and later (to be honest, I long for a romantic relationship and possibly a stable family with a baby, so the quality of the partner's sperm is quite important). I can only say that this is a segment of experience and lesson that fate gave me. I didn't expect it, I met a financial guy for the first time. He provided a lot of emotional value, smoothly added me on WeChat, and arranged to have dinner on the weekend. When we met for the first time, to be honest, if it weren't for our shared interests, I wouldn't have met him. He is very self-centered, and I didn't feel respected. As it turned out, we both like skiing; he asked me what I was planning to do next week, and I said I planned to go skiing. He said he would go too. He asked if I wanted to go together. Then I found out he had set his profile to invisible on the platform. This is also a key point. It's the same trick as my ex-boyfriend. My ex-boyfriend gave me his phone password early on, providing me with clear security. I thought for a moment and agreed, so he came to pick me up early. Over two days, he introduced me to three waves of his friends. During this time, he taught me some moves, took care of my emotions, and helped me carry my board. He ran around buying me snacks. I felt he was smart, considerate, and caring. Age shouldn't be an obstacle.
Although his shortcomings are also very obvious, he is stingy, very stingy. Buying a KFC meal set worth 120 yuan for me, him, and his friend. He had to loudly tell me that he ordered the most expensive bucket. Because he is on a diet and doesn't eat, I went skiing with him for two days and lost 2 pounds when I got back. So when he asked me on a night when I was working overtime if I wanted a ride service (he is over 20 kilometers away from me), it would take 40 minutes to drive over, I agreed. In my room, he became touchy, hugging and kissing, and I rejected all other inappropriate behaviors. He lingered in my room wanting to stay over, but I eventually kicked him out.
I feel like something is wrong. But I reminded him that the process is not right; he said he should bring me a bouquet of flowers and make it up to me on Monday. Another key point: he said he is 40 years old and wants to have a child. His cousin and sister-in-law got married after knowing each other for half a year. Now they have a second child. I thought the reason he was pushing the relationship forward quickly was that he wanted to get married soon. So I brainwashed myself. On Monday, he mentioned being anxious to get married and have children again. I had stopped him from getting too touchy earlier, and his constant cues about timing made me think he was truly anxious to get married and have children. He said he had an ex-girlfriend he dated for 8 years, who finally settled abroad. They broke up in 2023. Perfect me couldn't find a single flaw. On Tuesday, I received a bouquet of roses worth dozens of yuan (I often buy flowers, so I know roughly the price). But given that I previously thought he was stingy, I just felt he was frugal. It wasn't until later that I found out this guy has a wife and child, just that they are in a long-distance relationship!