Do not carry others; this is the ultimate awakening of adulthood.
In life, the hardest thing is not to change the world, but to change another person. Managing oneself is already a form of cultivation, and forcing others will only invite resentment — the more you interfere, the more they will resent you.
A true strong person never wastes words when dealing with others; just a hint is enough: those who can understand will find clarity with a single suggestion; for those who cannot understand, saying more is pointless, and it is better to let go calmly. In this world, there are very few who can be awakened; most people are trapped in their comfort zones, willingly mediocre, and refuse to change.
Some people always say, “I treat him as a friend and want to help him; if it were someone else, I wouldn't care.” Those who say this often do not understand the truth of human nature: not everyone is worth helping, and not all goodwill can be accepted.
You may try your utmost to pull him out of the mire; he may not appreciate it and might even resent your interference; you may wholeheartedly help him seven parts, and he may turn around and feel that you owe him three parts, taking your efforts for granted.
Over time, one understands: strong people never attempt to change anyone, nor do they interfere with others' karma. Everyone has their own life trajectory; the detours they must take and the hardships they must endure must ultimately be experienced by themselves. Rather than exerting effort to help others ungratefully, it is better to focus on one’s own cultivation; each is well, and that is the best outcome.
