Every time you open it, you lose. Precise liquidation. It drops as soon as you buy it, and it soars as soon as you sell it. If you are in this state as well, then you must stop and take a few minutes to seriously read it several times.
Do you know why many people do poorly in trading? Because most people focus too much on technical analysis or news, or they focus on others' opinions. Their mentality may be the same as the FOMO emotions of the crowd.
One person shouts that it will rise, and he believes it will rise; another person shouts that it will fall, and he believes it will fall. But in the trading industry, if you only listen to hearsay, you cannot do well. If you do not understand human nature and do not cultivate your heart, you are destined to be a pawn.
Next, I will share four truths about human nature, which are quite heart-wrenching. This article is a bit long, but if you can really get through it and understand it, I can tell you that you will stand out in the trading industry.
In the predatory trading circle, why do some people rise rapidly while others struggle? The answer is simple: the former sees through the underlying logic of trading, while the latter still views the market with a fairy-tale mentality, always thinking it will be fine. So, if you can understand my sharing today, it can save you at least ten years of detours in the trading industry.
The first point, brothers, remember that the essence of interpersonal relationships is the exchange of benefits, but many people are unwilling to acknowledge this fact. In fact, the relationship between people is fundamentally a transaction. Think about it, why do your parents treat you well? Because you are their child; the blood relationship determines their investment.
Today your friend will help you; why will they help you? Because you have common topics and might help each other in the future, creating multiple connections. Why does your wife love you? It's because you can meet her emotional or physiological needs, gaining the feeling of love and being loved. Why does your boss pay you? It’s because you can help him work and create value greater than the salary he pays you.
Looking back, why do big players engage in buying or selling? It’s because they can earn more money. When they push prices up, they can earn more; when they pull prices down, they can earn more, not because of your so-called skills or news.
I tell you, there is no love without reason in this world, nor is there hatred without reason. What we call emotions are merely cover-ups for the exchange of benefits. So, you must remember the three iron rules of interpersonal relationships.
· First, there are no eternal friends, only eternal interests.
· Second, the fainter the emotions, the more transparent your price becomes.
· Third, your value determines the quality of your connections.
So the second point, brothers, you need to understand that in this society, or in the trading industry, there are two sets of rules: morality is an illusion, and interests are the truth. What does this mean? In simple terms, there is one set that is open and one that is hidden.
In fact, what have we been taught since childhood about social rules? That we should be kind and upright, valuing emotions and righteousness. But the logic of how real society operates is completely different. The open rules are benevolence, righteousness, propriety, wisdom, faith, high morals, and equality, right? And what are the hidden rules? Whoever has resources and power gets to decide.
So, on the surface, society teaches us to be honest and trustworthy, but behind the scenes, it rewards those who understand how to adapt the rules. They know the open rules are a cage for the lower class, and the hidden rules are the game for the strong. Therefore, when you speak of morality, others will speak of benefits; when you talk of emotions, others will talk of reality.
So many people in trading are the same; the big players will not discuss feelings with you. What you think is the situation, that is what you think. What you consider safe, that is also what you think. Remember, when the interests are large enough, the big players will not consider your life or death because only by sacrificing you can this market survive longer.
So why do some people with poor character still thrive? Because they see through the rules and know how to use interests to drive others. Adults, remember, understand early on that the open rules are meant to constrain honest people, while the hidden rules are shortcuts for smart people. Therefore, true winners know how to switch freely between the two sets of rules.
So the third point is that you need to understand that human nature is to pursue benefits and avoid harm; don't expect anyone to be loyal to you. Many people have been betrayed by their friends, abandoned by their lovers, and harmed by their partners. They feel angry and pained, thinking, how can this person be so heartless?
But the truth is not like this; the truth is not that the other party has changed, but that you have overestimated their humanity. When you have no money or power, friends and family will avoid you, do you believe it? When you are successful, strangers will come to curry favor with you; when you lose your utility value, even the deepest emotions will fade.
So, in this world, there is no such thing as coldness in human relations; what exists is merely human nature. People are inclined to pursue benefits and avoid harm, so never expect anyone to be unconditionally loyal to you, and do not test human nature because it cannot withstand trials. When the interests are large enough, even the closest relationships can collapse in an instant.
I tell you, this is not a moral issue; it is a survival instinct and a reality you must see through. Remember a saying: adding flowers to a brocade is normal, but sending charcoal in the snow is the exception. Therefore, betrayal does not require a reason; it only requires greater benefits. Your value determines others' loyalty to you.
So the fourth point is that you must understand that emotions are the most fragile things. Many people have strong faith in a certain product and always think they must believe in it, expecting greater rewards in the future, which leads to unconditional affection and support. Yet, in the end, after a long time, they still end up on a roller coaster.
So from this moment on, you must understand that value is hard currency, just like the interactions between people. Many people may ask, why was I so good to you, yet you still left me? Why did I treat others sincerely but couldn't earn sincerity in return? The answer is simple: your goodness is simply not valuable; your so-called beliefs are worthless. You treat others well because you hope they will treat you well in return; you hope your beliefs will bring you higher returns. So, this is inherently a transaction. When others leave you, it is because the value you provide is insufficient; leaving is a natural reaction.
The core of emotions is attraction, and the foundation of attraction is value. What does this mean? It means that if you have money, looks, and resources, others will naturally be drawn to you. But if you have nothing and expect others to be completely devoted to you, that is inherently immoral, isn't it? Good relationships must have a sense of value, so ample emotions can make your mood more pleasant and your life more fulfilling.
Why is it that when making a mistake, some people are forgiven while others are abandoned for the same request? Why are some people valued while others are ignored? The answer is simple: it is the difference in value. Therefore, you must continuously enhance your value across three dimensions.
· First, economic value; how much actual profit can you bring?
· Second, emotional value; how much emotional comfort can you provide?
· Third, growth value; how can you help others improve, progress, and thrive in this real society?
Because you must understand that the rules governing the world prioritize interests, but we should learn to survive using these rules. Trading is the same; you must understand its game rules and we must use these rules to survive, rather than be eliminated by them.
What should you do? Remember, do not treat emotions as everything; you only need to focus on enhancing yourself. For example, love, friendship, and familial bonds all need to be maintained through value. The stronger you are, the deeper the affection others will show you. So, you must learn to have interest-driven relationships.
If you want others to help you, first think about what you can provide for them. If you want a long-term partnership, you must ensure that both parties can profit during the cooperation. Therefore, you must understand human nature, accept it, and master it. When others treat you well, it is not necessarily because you are a good person, but because you are useful. When others leave you, it is not because you did something wrong, but because you are no longer strong enough.
The world is very cruel, but you can become stronger. Only by seeing through human nature and understanding the secrets of the world can you live more transparently. So in this world, there is no eternity; this is something I have always said: there are only eternal interests. But this does not mean that we must become cold-blooded and heartless; rather, we must learn to protect ourselves in realistic ways. As long as you do not overestimate humanity, you will not be disappointed. As long as you do not hold overly high expectations for a certain target, you also will not be disappointed.
Therefore, if you do not rely on emotions, you will not get hurt. If you focus on enhancing your value, you will never be abandoned. In the trading industry, you either master the rules or get killed by them. Therefore, interests are the ultimate currency in interpersonal relationships.
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