A boy consulted a matchmaker online: his girlfriend plans to quit her job to fully prepare for the civil service exam. Naturally, she needs his full support financially. He is not unwilling to support her, but he is worried that if she succeeds in the exam, she will dump him. He has seen such examples around him, so he is hesitant and seeks the matchmaker's opinion.

The matchmaker immediately replied, "Be cautious," and then shared an example: a relative's daughter looked down on her boyfriend who supported her during her graduate studies after she got accepted into a master's program, and she hinted several times that she wanted to break up. The matchmaker advised the relative not to burn bridges, and mentioned that their family conditions weren't that great, so no one should look down on anyone else. But the relative felt that her daughter was now a graduate student and was superior, so she couldn't settle for less and should pursue better opportunities. In the end, she still dumped her boyfriend. It was a pity that the boy wasted several years of time and money in vain.

The matchmaker reminded him that if he decides to support his girlfriend, he should be mentally prepared to be her "stepping stone" because girls generally admire strong partners. If her status improves, she will definitely seek out better people. Even if she has nostalgia for the relationship, her parents, relatives, and colleagues will encourage her to pursue a better life. When the time comes, the one who will be hurt will definitely be the boy.

Relationships without blood ties are like small boats that cannot withstand the wind and waves; they can capsize at any moment. Especially in this era where interests come first, one-sided affection and selfless giving often become a deadly dagger aimed at oneself. $ETH