What people rationally want and what they actually encounter or are attracted to often do not align.

Clearly avoiding Metal and Water, yet often easily attracted to their own kind.

Rationally: I want to be with someone who is strong in Fire and Earth, and I will definitely choose a partner who is strong in Fire and Earth.

In reality: I am attracted to someone who is the same as me, with Metal and Water affecting my life, which resonates deeply.