1. Sex, that is, physical value.
Mature men have physiological needs.
From a sexual perspective, the higher a girl's attractiveness and figure, the greater her appeal to men.
2. Emotional value.
Men hope their partner is gentle and nurturing, and they want a woman who can satisfy their emotional value. No man dislikes a gentle little woman.
3. Economic value.
The higher a man is in the upper class, the more he values marriage, because it is not only about the happiness of two people but also concerns the genes of future generations. Therefore, they choose strong unions and do not engage in charity.
3. Appropriate encouragement, appreciation, and admiration.
What men need most is affirmation, appreciation, and admiration; this feeling is the most intoxicating.
4. Never attempt to find an interesting soul.
There is no one in this world who can be trusted based on words; if there is, it can only be due to an interest relationship.
Whether it's friendship, work, or love, if you feel especially in tune with the other person, communicate pleasantly, and even inspire sudden insights, do you know what this means?
There is a 1% chance you have encountered a soulmate, and a 99% chance you have met someone with more experience. The other person has merely downgraded their standards for some purpose.
5. Never worry about whether the other party will betray you.
You just need to know if the other party really does this, can you bear it? When you are deceived or taken advantage of, please do not blame this society for being unkind, or say that others' character has deteriorated.
In reality, the other person has not changed at all; human nature has not changed, and this society is still the same as it was.
You are just blinded by some marginalized cultures and trashy ideas, confusing your mind, making you mistakenly think that you have only encountered good character and good people.
6. Never say men are scum, even if he really is a scumbag.
Understanding the opposite sex makes it easy to judge whether a person can achieve happiness. Those who say women are materialistic and that no man is a good person are both pitiable. One has never been treated well by life, and the other has encountered terrible people.
So, let him continue to be scum; you just need to leave him. Do not stay with trash for too long, otherwise, you will also become trash. Most of life's troubles stem from entanglements with bad people and bad things. When encountering bad people and bad things, it is essential to stop promptly and withdraw in time.
7. Never expect a man to save you.
Men only love young and beautiful women; people tend to seek benefits and avoid harm. You must take 100% responsibility for your life and repeatedly save yourself from peril.
8. Don’t place too much emphasis on emotions. All feelings cannot withstand scrutiny; why is that?
It is because in a relationship, planting seeds of trust will lead to better outcomes, while planting seeds that destroy trust will lead to worse outcomes.
The act of scrutinizing feelings plants seeds of suspicion, distrust, and destroys trust.
Therefore, the mindset of scrutinizing will lead your relationship towards collapse.
9. If a boy you like gets drunk and calls you to find him, are you going?
You must go.
Why? Because this is his vulnerable moment, and it is also a very easy opportunity to establish a spiritual connection.
But when you go, there is one thing that is particularly important: you must never have a relationship with him.
This is a very important premise.
Why?
As long as a relationship happens at this time, you become a girl who can be summoned at will and dismissed just as easily; in this boy's mind, you are cheap.
So you go to establish a spiritual connection.
But if you are someone who lacks self-control, then don't go.
This is an act that requires mental energy and courage; girls without wisdom should just observe.
10. Girls should date more, find someone to practice with. Boys should do the same.
Engage with different types to know which is most suitable for you. Don’t be afraid to interact with different boys, as long as you respect your own feelings, understand normally, and ask yourself whether you like them or not.
When dating, while interacting is fine, do not sleep with someone you do not like; intimacy is meant for love, and without love, it should not happen. Do not sell yourself short.
Why engage with more people? To train your ability to manage relationships; if you try to become good friends with boys you have no feelings for, your path will only widen.
11. Love is not 1+1=2, but 0.5+0.5=1.
Two people each cut off half of their personalities and flaws, and then they can come together to be complete. Without mutual tolerance and acceptance, it is difficult for two people to become one.
12. Never forget to improve yourself.
In this world, only your own abilities are reliable; everything else is hollow. Strength is the key, it is justice.
13. Small trivial matters in life seem very real to the poor; if they are not handled promptly, it can be tiring for both parties. On the other hand, the wealthy view that their material foundation is already abundant; they seek to engage in interesting activities during their free time to meet their spiritual needs, especially doing household chores together is very beneficial for enhancing feelings.
14. How can you forget someone you like? As long as there are conflicting interests.
In any situation, as long as there is a conflict of interests, you can forget the other person in a second; when your interest conflicts sharply, you won't like him for even a minute.
For example, if he cuts off your financial resources, destroys your beliefs, and collapses your business chain, you would hate him.
15. Emotions carry the least weight and strength.
In the relationships of business, interest, emotion, money, and value, the relationship of emotions is the weakest.
If you no longer have strength, value, and money, and are left with nothing but a lonely feeling, then even if you give your all, you will not gain anything.
Because in any relationship, the one who has developed feelings is the one who hands over the knife handle to another, waiting to be slaughtered. Taking up the knife of feelings can harvest many, but also poison countless others.
16. The way men and women pursue others is completely opposite.
Two men pursuing one woman, the one with shallow feelings gives up first; two women pursuing one man, the one with deeper feelings gives up first.
17. Women should not only have appearance but also must possess depth, intelligence, and continue to grow; the simplest and most direct way to grow is through reading. Reading a good book is like directly communicating with a great soul, cleansing the soul.
