1. I suggest all hesitant girls repeatedly read this sentence: 'Everyone's opinions and evaluations are temporary; only your own experiences and achievements last a lifetime. Almost all worries and fears come from your imagination. Only when you truly take action will you discover how happy you can be.'
2. Good at pretending, understands acting, adept at hiding schemes to protect oneself. On the surface, they appear to be a naive sweetheart, seemingly very innocent. But in reality, they see things clearer than anyone else, pretending to be a pig to eat the tiger. They look like a bronze player but are actually a king. Outwardly warm, but when asked, they are clueless; they seem lively and straightforward, talking about everything, but once it involves core interests, they start to stay vigilant, act dumb, and their soul's response is: 'I don’t know, I don’t understand, I’m not clear.'
3. Be good at creating a persona for yourself and maintaining a good image. When facing crises and difficulties, you can often retreat unscathed. This persona is like a piece of clothing; wear styles that others like, just to maximize your own interests and protect yourself.
4. A little-known psychological fact: As long as you position yourself at the center of action, as long as your heart is ruthless and clear, no matter how sweet your words are, how many times you take the initiative to find topics, or how passive you appear on the surface, you are essentially benefiting yourself. The highest punishment is silence, and the most restrained revenge is ignoring.
5. Outwardly friendly, laughing and cheerful, with no ulterior motives. Able to get along well with everyone, seemingly having good social connections. Knows how to give others the spotlight, allowing them to be the main character and accepting everyone’s gaze. Will intentionally ask questions or request small favors, then express gratitude to deepen the relationship. Possesses strong social skills, able to adjust their state according to others. When encountering jealous friends, they will let them shine more, and when someone is showing off, they will appropriately give compliments.
6. A woman relies on looks before the age of 20; after 20, she must rely on both looks and the ability to earn money. By the time she turns 30, she needs to rely more on wisdom to live better. Women must remember: study hard, grow well, earn money well, shop less, watch fewer dramas, and chat less. All the affection and longing are just words; in this world, relying on anyone is not as good as relying on oneself. No matter how good a co-pilot is, it’s not as good as holding the steering wheel tightly.
7. Jump out of the trap of superficial perfectionism. When it comes to perfection, you might think of: branded lipsticks, designer bags, luxurious hotels, high-end restaurants, private travels. No, these are all superficial perfectionism, often done for others to see. What you need to do now is to live for yourself. Take care of your emotions, whether you feel relaxed and happy. Care about your body, whether it is healthy. Reflect on your work, whether it brings a sense of achievement. Perfection is never about comparison and showing off; it is about inner richness and the little joys of life.
8. Do not put all your bets on love because the average lifespan of a relationship is only 2.7 years. If his love for you has already faded, it can be too dangerous for you. The safest and most reliable bets are on self-growth and the money in your own pocket.
9. Outstanding people all leave three circles.
a. No longer sincere classmates' circle b. Friends' circle without true feelings c. Relatives' circle that loves wealth over poverty.
Success is about jumping through hoops, to see who can jump through them faster. Look at Li Ziqi, she has already jumped to the hoops of foreign websites.
10. The highest level for a girl is not that neither party takes the initiative, but rather, I ignore whether you are active or passive. When I want to take the initiative, I will, and when I don’t, I won’t. Your initiative or passivity does not concern me. My initiative only means I am willing; I only care about my own preferences and will not let your attitude affect my emotions and interests. Only by not being manipulated by others’ actions can one achieve true freedom.
11. A lifelong piece of advice for women.
The most economical self-discipline for women is making money.
The most beautiful self-discipline for women is fitness.
The healthiest self-discipline for women is to go to bed early.
The self-discipline that most changes a woman’s temperament is reading.
The safest self-discipline for women is economic independence.
Women should do these important things in their lives.
First, seek a livelihood, then seek love.
12. If you are soft and fragile, you can be easily broken. Even if you stand tall in front of men, it doesn’t necessarily mean you are truly in a high position.
13. Redirect your attention to yourself, look at what brings you joy today and what you can learn. Self-love leads to love, which leads to freedom.
14. A person must know their position just as one knows their own face; this is the clearest awareness. Being stripped of superficiality is always more beautiful than casually applying makeup. Therefore, do what you can do and do it the best; this is the essence of being a person. — Mo Yan
15. Most of the attraction comes from your courage of 'not being afraid of losing' because you have the confidence that 'you can get something better after losing', and this confidence comes from strength. Lowering your posture is useless.
16. Consider everything from the perspective of interests; by doing so, you will become increasingly intelligent. If you only want to consider problems from an emotional perspective, you will become increasingly foolish.
17. When a man is not afraid of losing a woman, your attractiveness to women is at its peak. Conversely, when a woman is not worried about losing a man, your attractiveness to men is at its peak. Similarly, when a boss is not afraid of losing a client, your attractiveness to clients is at its peak.
18. First, one must learn to respect their own time; only when a person respects themselves can they have value, status, and a future, and then others must respect you.
