I might not update in the next few days because I need to prepare fully for the offline training on the 19th-20th.
The quota is already full now, the reason for not continuing to accept people is that the venue cannot accommodate more.
The next time should be something happening three months later, but some people's fates may change during these three months.
This time I turned away several clearly unsuitable candidates, like the ones below:
Overall, there are slightly more people than last time, and the quality is higher than before; a significant portion comes with precise resources.
Today, I particularly want to make a point:
In fact, your life is what you choose for yourself.
Not long ago, I started cutting off ineffective social interactions, and in such a short time, I feel much more comfortable. Let me show you the current status of my friend list.
I will not accept everyone's friend requests unless they can bring me a direct connection. This applies not only to WeChat but also to other social platforms like video accounts:
If there’s something to clarify, do so first; add WeChat only if necessary, because most people actually have nothing urgent, and most of the WeChat friends sitting idle in your list have barely chatted a few words.
As for the rest, even if they are advertisers coming to give me money, I will not accept them.
Everyone who applies to be my WeChat friend must answer me six words: Who are you, what’s the matter?
In the past, you would find me frequently sharing chat records of roasting idiots on Moments, which became a source of amusement for many, but every time I roasted someone was built on my painful feelings.
It's much better now, the number of idiots in my WeChat friends has significantly decreased.
Besides that, I will also delete some people. If I feel it's inappropriate while scrolling through Moments or chatting with them, I will delete them immediately.
At least for my friend list, I still want to be in control.
This seemingly simple thing has kept me holding back for a full eight years.
Those who work with traffic should understand what I mean.
When you start doing self-media, you must prioritize traffic and content.
When you create content and manage traffic, there will inevitably be some that settle into the private domain.
But when fans add you, you don’t know what they are doing; you can only add them first and then filter slowly.
This is a common logic used in the past for managing traffic: first accept the traffic and then slowly convert it later.
It's been like this for so many years. But due to the lack of a screening mechanism at the front end, it led to a mix of good and bad, and many strange people would add me, resulting in some very frustrating situations.
Especially with my previous account, I didn't like posting on Moments as much back then, but the number of absurd events I experienced daily was much higher than now.
At that time, I felt I needed enough traffic to feel secure, so even if it was tough, I had to endure.
This crown has been worn for eight years. And Orange’s feeling now has become:
Since it's so hard to manage, why not just not do it?
Only exhaust others, not yourself.
Since making this change, the breath I had held in my heart for eight years has finally been released.
Choosing to embrace traffic eight years ago was my own choice.
Because I need to establish myself in this industry and earn my first bucket of gold.
Choosing to filter traffic eight years later is also my own choice.
Because I had no choice in the past, now I just want to be idle and earn enough money to make a living.
It was only after this period that I realized:
What kind of life I want to live is actually something I can choose myself.
As for my current state, it is merely the result of my past choices.
If you want to make money, go to where the money is, doing things that can earn money.
If you want to travel, put aside your current matters and prepare for departure.
Your past choices determine your present, while your current choices can shape your future.
If you are in a negative state, don't let the current situation bind you. If life is like a journey, this is just one of the lows; you deserve a better future, you haven't taken off yet!
Keep it up, don't lose heart; we are still young and all have a bright future!
The past cannot be changed, but the future can be created!
Young people, let's get excited!
I am Orange, the founder of Web3 Oasis, and an expert in recovering crypto assets.