Feng Tang once lamented:
“In the past, when drinking, I would down the drink at the first encouragement, and even without encouragement, I would drink until I made a fool of myself.”
“Only later did I understand, colleagues, classmates, and friends are merely passing figures in life, and eventually, everyone will part ways.”
“What comparison, calculation, and face-saving? The more I live, the more I feel it's all illusion—too many people are still obsessed and unaware.”
When young, who doesn't love to gather for meals? Not getting drunk isn't considered enjoyable.
Thought drinking at the table was about friendship, and staying up late for socializing was about networking.
Yet little do they know that in the exchange of cups, health is consumed, and what’s empty is true sincerity.
Colleagues forcing themselves to toast, just to exchange a phrase 'this person is quite nice';
At class reunions, comparing cars and houses makes one fear being labeled as 'not doing well'.
The face that can be fought for will soon become someone else's topic of conversation.
The lingering comparison that once haunted me seems trivial after many years.
By middle age, one finally understands: simplifying is true wisdom.
Passersby will eventually leave, but the only one who can accompany you until the end is yourself.
There's no need to force a toast for the sake of fitting in, and no need to overspend your life for the sake of appearances.
Drink a little less alcohol, and be a little more sober;
Socializing less leads to more companionship.
Comparison is a self-imposed trap, and calculation is a pointless internal struggle.
Letting go brings freedom, simplicity brings happiness.
True connections are not measured by drinking capacity, but by strength.
Reliable reputation does not rely on appearances, but on actions.
Strength is hidden in actions, and true feelings are retained in details.
Living transparently means learning to accept oneself.
Do not cater to meaningless social interactions, and ignore irrelevant evaluations.
Leave time for those who matter, and invest energy in what you love.
Such a life,
That's when you truly enjoy yourself.
That's what truly 'matters'.
