I have followers who earn 80,000 a month asking me: 'Teacher, I can stabilize my business, why is it so difficult to find a suitable girlfriend?' In fact, this is not complicated at all. Today, I will use the logic of our trading to teach you how to unravel this problem step by step.
First, you need to understand: if you feel it's 'hard to find', the root causes are simply three - unclear standards for 'suitability', a narrow social circle with no opportunities, and a wrong mindset in interactions. This is like not clarifying your target before trading, not choosing the right track, and having a chaotic trading rhythm; naturally, you will struggle to achieve good results.
Let's first talk about the issue of 'choosing criteria'. Many followers will list a dozen criteria for their future partner: height must be over 165 cm, must be in finance or education, should like fitness and understand macroeconomics. This is like setting overly fitted parameters for a stock during trading; it seems precise but actually blocks out real matching opportunities. I will teach you a simple method: focus on three core standards, such as 'willing to communicate patiently', 'able to grow together', and 'relaxed and comfortable together', and abandon those non-core rules. Just like in trading, only look at key signals; if you focus on 'whether the two can communicate and whether they can tolerate each other', you will find more like-minded people.
Next, let's talk about the 'trading mindset' during interactions. Many followers are either too eager, wanting to confirm the relationship right after meeting, like entering a full position as soon as the market moves, exposing their need too early, putting pressure on the other party, and making it hard for themselves to let go; or they are too laid-back, always waiting for 'something better', like missing out on a good market opportunity, pushing away the fate they should grab. Let me tell you, a good mindset should be 'stable yet willing to take initiative'. When you meet someone you like, don't rush to achieve, start with low-pressure interactions like sharing daily life or going to exhibitions together, just like gradually testing the waters when building a position, slowly accumulating positive feedback; if you clearly feel a mismatch in values, don't cling on like being stuck, decisively end it, and don't waste each other's time. Remember, relationships, like trading, cannot be rushed but also cannot be waited on; express your feelings when you should take the initiative, and never hesitate when it's time to let go.
Finally, let me say something from the heart: earning 80,000 a month is your 'basic chip', but in relationships, what matters is not the 'hardware', but the 'cognition and mindset'. Just like in trading, understanding trends and managing risk is more important than merely looking at account numbers; when looking for a partner, understanding what you want and being able to get along well is more useful than listing a bunch of standards.
Next time you feel it's 'hard to find' someone, try to reflect on the principles of trading: first clarify your core needs, then maintain your pace, and approach and understand calmly and unhurriedly. Trust me, when you treat relationships with the rationality and patience of trading, the right person will naturally appear in your life.
