Many people shout, "I want to change my fate," yet cling to their original city, original circle, original consumption habits, and information channels.
But you need to understand one thing:
Humans are products of their environment.
1. Why haven't you had a fundamental change all this time?
It's not because you aren't smart enough or working hard enough, but because you've never truly changed your environment.
You are still in that third- or fourth-tier city, discussing side jobs and financial management with people earning three thousand a month,
Still stuck discussing side jobs, financial management, and saving money for a house with a group of people earning three thousand a month in that third- or fourth-tier city,
If you haven't seen someone, you can't imagine it; if you can't imagine it, you can't do it.
If you want to make a leap, the only way out is to change your circle, change your city, and change the voices you hear every day.
2. The first step to changing your fate: change your environment.
If you want to change your life path, there is an absolutely effective method:
✅ Change your city by spending three months in a first-tier city;
✅ Change your circle by joining a community you feel you can't afford to reach;
✅ Change your daily socializing by having a meal with someone whose income is ten times yours.
You will be surprised to find that:
The way they think about problems is not something you can imagine;
The logic they use to make decisions is completely different from your understanding;
Their access to information, control over resources, and use of time are simply not from the same world.
3. Upward socializing: learn to "appease their preferences."
To be honest:
The underlying logic of truly upward socializing is not based on "equal communication," but on "appeasing their preferences."
Do you want to meet a big shot you admire? The most effective method is these three words: spend money.
Don't talk about "relying on strength" or "getting along"; the reality is:
No one wants to have deep interactions with someone who is doing significantly worse than themselves.
But what can you do?
You can:
Sign up for his course;
Give him books, tea, and watches that he likes;
Help him with tasks, refine content, and handle details;
Spread what he talks about and become his "megaphone."
These are all "emotional value investments" you make to build connections and impress others.
Not "seeking guidance"
4. Smart people have long understood: spending money is more important than making money.
Let me give you an example and you'll understand.
Xiao Wang earns 100,000 a year, spends 80,000 on himself, and uses the rest to buy an iPhone and rent a slightly better apartment;
Xiao Zhang also earns 100,000 a year, but he only spends 20,000 on himself, using half of the remaining money for learning and half for social investment.
Ten years later, Xiao Wang is still stuck in place, striving for stability;
And Xiao Zhang has already stepped into a higher circle, with partners, resources, and accelerators.
Why?
Because Xiao Zhang understands one thing: true growth is not achieved by saving, but by investing.
Money spent in the right place is called "leveraged investment," not consumption.
5. In conclusion:
If you feel that you haven't changed much in the past few years, don't be anxious.
You don't need to work harder; you just need to change to a higher-dimensional environment and then do the hardest thing—
Spend money in the areas you fear spending the most: networking, circles, learning, and relationships.
Once you take this step, you will find that:
You no longer rely on "grinding it out," but on "borrowing."
You are no longer fighting alone, but using the paths others have taken to shorten your journey.
So, remember one thing:
Spending money to break through social circles is more worthwhile to learn than trying to make money in isolation.