Step 1: Allow yourself to collapse, but don't let the collapse define you.
All your current emotions — confusion, self-blame, numbness, even suicidal thoughts — are normal.
This is not weakness, but a natural response of a person after great trauma.
Just like a fracture will cause excruciating pain, but the pain proves that the bone is healing.
At this moment, please do three small things:
Immediately leave the computer/mobile phone, go to the convenience store downstairs, and buy a can of ice-cold Coke to stimulate and awaken your bodily senses;
Call your parents or the most trusted friend, even if it's just to say 'I'm feeling very bad today';
Write down 'money is just a number' on paper and then tear it up — you need to re-establish your reverence for money.
💡 Step 2: Liquidation is not the end, but a high-priced lesson from the market.
You mentioned 'being in the market for 5 years and experiencing both big gains and losses,' which shows you are no longer a novice.
This liquidation exposed not a technical issue, but a tear between cognition and execution —
Knowing you should stop loss/cash out but not doing it → this is the ultimate game of greed and fear;
Treating money as a number and wildly increasing leverage → this is the price of lacking reverence for the market.
But you must understand:
Even 'The Wolf of Wall Street' experienced liquidation and bankruptcy; Ray Dalio's Bridgewater Associates suffered early losses that made him doubt life;
All top traders have experienced liquidation; the difference is that they turned failure into fuel for system upgrades.
🔥 Step 3: Rise from the ruins and rebuild your trading system.
1. Mandatory isolation period: give yourself 48 hours of 'withdrawal reaction.'
Uninstall all trading software and turn off market notifications;
Give your account password to a family member for safekeeping (to avoid impulsive actions);
In these two days, do only two things: sleep and walk, allowing your overly excited brain to cool down.
2. Review with a scalpel: dissect your trading records with a scalpel.
Take out paper and pen and write down one by one:
The direct causes of this liquidation (for example: leverage ratio, stop-loss settings, emotional triggers);
The 3 fatal mistakes you repeatedly made in the past 5 years (for example: not stopping losses, adding positions to hold on, overconfidence);
If you could do it all over again, at which point would you hit the brakes?
Key phrase: 'At that time, I thought... but in reality...'(For example: 'I thought adding more positions would recover my losses, but in reality, it only accelerated my demise.')
3. Rebuild trading discipline: start from being a 'simulated trading prisoner.'
Spend 1 month only doing simulated trading, strictly enforce the following rules:
Close positions immediately if a single loss exceeds 1% of the principal;
Trade a maximum of 3 times a day, and if you exceed that, punish yourself with 100 push-ups;
Extract profits if you make more than 5% weekly, and prohibit reinvestment.
Goal: not to make money in simulated trading, but to develop 'muscle memory discipline.'
🌱 Step 4: Redefine your life coordinate system — trading is not everything.
You mentioned 'being isolated from the outside world and having no skills,' which is a more dangerous signal than a liquidation.
Trading is just a tool, not a definition of life. Now, please list your 'survival skills checklist':
What have 5 years of trading experience taught you? (For example: data analysis skills, stress resistance, market sensitivity);
Besides trading, what time are you willing to invest in learning? (For example: programming, self-media, financial analysis);
If you could only do one thing to improve yourself in the next 3 months, what would you choose?
