A moment of great enlightenment,
Poor parents still foolishly do not know,
In fact, when the child grows up, this family is already scattered,
Even if they come back during holidays, it can only be called a gathering.
Long Yingtai wrote in 'Seeing Off':
The fate between parents and children,
It's just a gradually distant farewell.
You stand at this end of the path,
Watching him gradually disappear at the bend of the path,
And he tells you with his back that there is no need to chase.
When young, I couldn't understand the deep meaning of this sentence,
Until the child drags the suitcase out of the house,
Only then do you suddenly realize that so-called familial love,
It's just borrowed from you, but not born for you.
How many people live to middle age,
Only then dare to admit that children are not a continuation of their parents' lives,
But rather a grand 'passing by'.
From the moment the child is born,
Parents fall into a gentle illusion,
Thinking that blood ties can forge eternal intimacy.
But when the child gets the ticket to college,
Clearly, it is a gentle yet sharp blade,
Dividing the word 'home' in half,
Half is the old house kept by the parents,
Half is the new world the child heads towards.
The older generation always says, 'When the child travels a thousand miles, the mother worries',
But now it is: 'When the child travels a thousand miles, the mother is hard to find.'
In WeChat, there are always only transfer records and call records,
Children use 'emoji' to brush off your concerns,
Use 'busy' to brush off your concern.
Long Yingtai said well,
Some things can only be done alone,
Some connections can only be experienced alone.
Parents finally realize they are just supporting characters in the child's life script,
Even the lines are compressed into remarks during the transfer.
You think the reunion dinner during Spring Festival is a continuation of home,
It's just the last dignity of family love.
Children return home with new ideas,
You serve the table, and your signature dish has become 'unhealthy'.
The life experiences you impart have become 'old thoughts'.
Between two generations, there lies a Maria Trench,
You shout 'wear more autumn pants' from this side of the trench,
He is on the other side of the trench, laughing at your old-fashionedness while scrolling short videos.
Bi Shumin once said,
Parents and children will eventually become the most familiar strangers.
Mo Yan wrote about late bloomers,
All love in the world points towards reunion,
Only the love of parents points towards parting.
Smart parents should have understood this when sending their children to kindergarten,
Just learn to see them off,
Children are not kites; you don’t need to hold tightly onto the string.
He is a migratory bird, destined to fly towards mountains and rivers you cannot see.
Rather than asking on the phone 'when will you come home',
Better to replace reminders with 'come back whenever you are tired'.
True familial love is never about control, but about fulfillment.
Lin Qingxuan said,
The beginning of love is a glance,
The end of love is the infinite sky.
The relationship between parents and children is, in essence, a mutual borrowing of time.
When he turns to walk towards his own life,
What you should do is not to cry and mend the broken home,
But instead, smilingly embeds the broken porcelain pieces into a starry sky.
After all, children living as their own selves is the greatest merit of parents.
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