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Why do most rural college students struggle?
The main reason is that they do not know how to enjoy life; indulging in eating, drinking, and entertainment, or engaging in activities like dining, gambling, and other forms of leisure is actually a very important skill.
I myself come from a poor rural background and understand rural people very well. Many of those with difficult family situations who are academically gifted enough to enter college or even prestigious universities tend to mature early. They determine to leave the rural life behind but do not want to do so through manual labor. Therefore, most of them strive to change their fate through hard work and studying.
Their characteristics include being particularly smart and diligent, as well as being simple, introverted, disciplined, self-restrained, a mix of self-assured and insecure, with the only thing lacking being confidence.
Many of my classmates from high school studied so hard that they considered resting a sin. In high school, the girls in my class felt it was a crime to talk to us boys during breaks, and even growing long hair was seen as a sin because it required frequent washing, which wasted time that could be spent on homework.
They were extremely vigilant about not losing their ambition due to distractions, so they devoted all their available time to studying and would never waste their time on anything that did not yield academic results.
In a student era where grades are paramount, this is indeed an extremely effective strategy in the face of college entrance exams. Most of them manage to get into relatively good schools through their hard work, but they often choose majors that are not suitable because they are usually guided by relatives, like parents or teachers, who are confident but know little about the fields they are suggesting.
Choosing the wrong major is not the most important issue; the important thing is that they have also missed out on learning how to play.
From a young age, they do not feel that leisure is important; in fact, they often look down on those who know how to enjoy themselves, thinking that playing is a waste of study time. It was only after I entered university that I realized that knowing how to have fun is also a very important skill.
For many people, shared experiences like getting drunk after a breakup, playing video games all night, playing football, getting into fights, or visiting brothels... these are what truly establish strong friendships.
Playing is an important medium through which we connect and communicate with others.
A person's growth is difficult if they lack the element of play, as it becomes hard to build a foundation for high emotional intelligence. If someone is immersed only in academic knowledge without engaging in anything that allows for relaxation, they can come across as less interesting to others.
This is not hard to comprehend because there isn't much to discuss with them aside from academics.
Of course, top students may have their own little circles, but over 99% of people in life are ordinary individuals who do not appreciate the type of knowledge exchange found in student life.
The knowledge exchange model during student times is only useful for learning knowledge and skills.
However, in today's world, if one does not establish effective connections with others and leverage social capital, it is challenging to accomplish significant tasks.
In society, people often need emotional value. Once in the workplace, if one cannot socialize or engage in dining, drinking, gift-giving, or other leisure activities, it becomes very difficult to achieve many things because most people are quite conventional and require these social elements.
I personally have this problem; I do not know how to have fun and have no interest in eating, drinking, gambling, or leisure activities. I am very poor at dealing with people and often come off as discussing issues or lecturing others.
I know some academically gifted individuals from rural areas who struggle to develop further, often getting stuck at this point, finding it hard to establish deeper relationships with others, which not only affects their career development but can even make dating challenging.
If someone is more aware, they may recognize this issue upon entering society, but they find it challenging to adapt, especially psychologically, as personality traits tend to solidify after adulthood, making significant changes difficult.
Some might say it's a money issue, but that's not true. Even when these individuals have money, they still approach spending from a rational perspective, just like during their student days, believing that both money and energy are limited resources that must be allocated correctly. They think energy should be focused on studying and money should be invested in buying property.
Even if they have hundreds of thousands or even millions, they do not think about spending that money on leisure or entertainment, to please themselves, or to use money to socialize and enjoy life.
In the investment market, they may incur losses of hundreds of thousands or millions but are reluctant to spend a few thousand on a nice outfit for themselves.
Ultimately, the thinking patterns formed during adolescence can influence a person's entire life, and transforming this rational way of thinking is the most challenging task. 🥲🥲🥲
The main reason is that they do not know how to enjoy life; indulging in eating, drinking, and entertainment, or engaging in activities like dining, gambling, and other forms of leisure is actually a very important skill.
I myself come from a poor rural background and understand rural people very well. Many of those with difficult family situations who are academically gifted enough to enter college or even prestigious universities tend to mature early. They determine to leave the rural life behind but do not want to do so through manual labor. Therefore, most of them strive to change their fate through hard work and studying.
Their characteristics include being particularly smart and diligent, as well as being simple, introverted, disciplined, self-restrained, a mix of self-assured and insecure, with the only thing lacking being confidence.
Many of my classmates from high school studied so hard that they considered resting a sin. In high school, the girls in my class felt it was a crime to talk to us boys during breaks, and even growing long hair was seen as a sin because it required frequent washing, which wasted time that could be spent on homework.
They were extremely vigilant about not losing their ambition due to distractions, so they devoted all their available time to studying and would never waste their time on anything that did not yield academic results.
In a student era where grades are paramount, this is indeed an extremely effective strategy in the face of college entrance exams. Most of them manage to get into relatively good schools through their hard work, but they often choose majors that are not suitable because they are usually guided by relatives, like parents or teachers, who are confident but know little about the fields they are suggesting.
Choosing the wrong major is not the most important issue; the important thing is that they have also missed out on learning how to play.
From a young age, they do not feel that leisure is important; in fact, they often look down on those who know how to enjoy themselves, thinking that playing is a waste of study time. It was only after I entered university that I realized that knowing how to have fun is also a very important skill.
For many people, shared experiences like getting drunk after a breakup, playing video games all night, playing football, getting into fights, or visiting brothels... these are what truly establish strong friendships.
Playing is an important medium through which we connect and communicate with others.
A person's growth is difficult if they lack the element of play, as it becomes hard to build a foundation for high emotional intelligence. If someone is immersed only in academic knowledge without engaging in anything that allows for relaxation, they can come across as less interesting to others.
This is not hard to comprehend because there isn't much to discuss with them aside from academics.
Of course, top students may have their own little circles, but over 99% of people in life are ordinary individuals who do not appreciate the type of knowledge exchange found in student life.
The knowledge exchange model during student times is only useful for learning knowledge and skills.
However, in today's world, if one does not establish effective connections with others and leverage social capital, it is challenging to accomplish significant tasks.
In society, people often need emotional value. Once in the workplace, if one cannot socialize or engage in dining, drinking, gift-giving, or other leisure activities, it becomes very difficult to achieve many things because most people are quite conventional and require these social elements.
I personally have this problem; I do not know how to have fun and have no interest in eating, drinking, gambling, or leisure activities. I am very poor at dealing with people and often come off as discussing issues or lecturing others.
I know some academically gifted individuals from rural areas who struggle to develop further, often getting stuck at this point, finding it hard to establish deeper relationships with others, which not only affects their career development but can even make dating challenging.
If someone is more aware, they may recognize this issue upon entering society, but they find it challenging to adapt, especially psychologically, as personality traits tend to solidify after adulthood, making significant changes difficult.
Some might say it's a money issue, but that's not true. Even when these individuals have money, they still approach spending from a rational perspective, just like during their student days, believing that both money and energy are limited resources that must be allocated correctly. They think energy should be focused on studying and money should be invested in buying property.
Even if they have hundreds of thousands or even millions, they do not think about spending that money on leisure or entertainment, to please themselves, or to use money to socialize and enjoy life.
In the investment market, they may incur losses of hundreds of thousands or millions but are reluctant to spend a few thousand on a nice outfit for themselves.
Ultimately, the thinking patterns formed during adolescence can influence a person's entire life, and transforming this rational way of thinking is the most challenging task. 🥲🥲🥲
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