Recently, someone approached me to express their frustrations, saying they feel anxious and that things never go well.
I summarized the reasons they mentioned: lack of money.
They say that as long as I have enough money, I won't be anxious anymore. I will have confidence, and I can rise again.
Lack of money indeed makes it hard for people to remain calm, and it can lead to extreme anxiety, especially for men over 30.
The best time in life has passed halfway.
At this time, everything said is futile; one can only make money. Once money is earned, the mindset will improve.
This is an unsolvable contradiction that can only be overcome by oneself; no one can help, just practice again.
Someone with experience will definitely practice and improve much faster than a complete novice.
Why is it that when young, failures can be easily overcome?
After the age of 35-40, it becomes very difficult to rise again.
It's not that there are no opportunities to make money, but rather that one's mindset has changed.
To make money, one must have a good mindset, elevated emotions, and passionate fighting spirit.
Without all of this, a person cannot accomplish anything.
One cannot fall down in middle age. It is not easy to come back.
Cultivating the mind must be based on financial stability; without money, there is no stable life, no stable family environment, leading to mental distress, giving up, and by the age of 50, becoming a failure, which results in a very poor life experience.
How to maintain high emotions and fighting spirit.
When I face moments of anxiety, I read more books, study history, read biographies, read about success, and read novels to provide spiritual nourishment for myself. Only when the spirit is satisfied can the heart become calm, recognize oneself, and start anew.
The dark periods of life I have experienced have actually been more tumultuous than most people. However, this may not be useful for everyone. I often say that I am like wild grass in the wind, extremely resilient, and no difficulty can shake my true heart.
A friend of mine got caught up over a minor issue and spent less than a month in detention. When I saw him last month, he said he felt very calm and patient inside, exercising, watching TV, meditating, reading novels, and basking in the sun. He said he was not anxious inside. Because it was already like this, money and desires had become useless, and only the desire for freedom remained. He understood this experience as a form of practice. Hearing him say this, I gradually understood why some people go to temples for a few days, turn off their phones, and cut off contact with anyone. Perhaps it is to achieve temporary inner peace.
But for me, I prefer to feel all of this in the bustling world.
Despair, sadness, anger, helplessness, and joy are all remedies for cultivating the mind.
The feelings after these experiences are not something others can tell you; they can only be deeply understood through personal experience. These experiences transform into insights, ultimately forming one's worldview, determining what kind of person you become.
